Am I allowed to hate myself now?
"I really don’t want to shower but I want to be clean" an autobiography
"Now that I’m in the shower I really dont wanna get out" a sequel
"Now that I’m out, I don’t want to put on clothes" the spin-off
"I’m sitting here in my towel and I must have showered 2 hours ago" the self help booklet
Heidi the rabbit!
Heidi has arthritis in her knees and hips so to help with the pain, she swims a few times a week!
Sometimes she wears a scrunchie on her ears so that they don’t get wet!
“sometimes she wears a scrunchie on her ears so that they don’t get wet”
This is a self-care package giveaway to celebrate my first tumblr birthday!
The package contains things that I personally like. There are creative activities, things to ground yourself with using your senses, things to self soothe with, things to pamper yourself with, delicious snacks and treats (I was careful to not include anything hugely calorific so that those who are struggling with restrictive eating disorders might still be able to allow themselves to indulge in these snacks.)
The idea is that you keep the box and add to it with your own self care items.
It might be a good idea to write your crisis contact numbers on the inside of the lid. Maybe you can use the notebook to write affirmations for when you might need a little encouragement. It might be a good idea to keep a copy of your own crisis plan inside the box.
You can replenish the items once you have used them up or replace them with something you prefer to the things I have chosen. If there’s anything in the box that you don’t like, how about gifting it to a friend who might enjoy it?
The giveaway ends on my tumblr birthday which is Sunday 9th November 2014. It will end at 12:00 (midday) GMT (London time) and the winner will be chosen using a random number generator.
The self care package contains the following items:
Sticker activity book
Dinosaur painting by numbers
Non brand play dough
Felt pens and pencil
Multicoloured bouncy ball
CD of Rudyard Kipling’s Just So Stories
Coconut hand cream
Coconut lip balm
Pom bear crisps
Cola flavoured boiled sweets
Hot chocolate sachets
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- Your ask must be open for me to contact you
- Your blog must not be offensive or triggering. I will consider your blog offensive or triggering if I feel you promote suicide, self hatred, self sabotage, self harm, eating disorders, oppressive opinions, bigotry, hard core pornography, etc. (this list is not exhaustive but is meant to be an indicator of what I mean by “offensive” and “triggering”.)
I am in my second year of undergrad and should graduate in either December 2017 or May 2018. I am a Biology Pre-Med major. I want to go to medical school.
Is it too early to start looking into which med schools I’m interested in?
Never say that you “don’t care” about a person’s orientation, gender, disabilities, illnesses, ethnicity, religion, or any other aspect of their identities
Because all of those things are inherently a part of that person and their identity and by “not caring” about those things you are saying that you don’t care about them as a person, and also erasing important aspects of them
"Not caring" is not the same as being accepting, and it is certainly not respectful
Be the good girl you always have to be: Is Frozen’s Elsa the queer heroine we need, but not the one we deserve?
Another Disney film and another wave of reviews, reading, and critisisms are beginning to hit the internet. Amid discussions of Disney’s ongoing race problems, feminist-friendly trope subversions, and the eternal question of “why the hell is that Reindeer acting like a dog?” one question stands out to me: Is Queen Elsa, well, queer?
There certainly is a compelling case for it. On the obvious level, Elsa has no love interest in the piece (her sister, Anna, gets two!) Hans himself says that “no one was making progress” with Elsa in a romantic sense. Now, I’m not about to argue that any young woman about to take control of a country who isn’t interested in a boyfriend is a lesbian. Similar comments were made about Brave’s Merida, and honestly, that in itself isn’t enough for a decent queer reading.
But with Elsa there is more. So much more.
Effectively, her ice powers are a convenient LGBTQIAP+ metaphor (much in the same vein as the X-Men’s mutant powers.)
Elsa has been born with these powers (she’s literally born that way). They are an integral part of who she is as a person, but she is forced by her parents to keep that part of her hidden. If people know, they would reject her, she would be in danger, made into a pariah by her own people. So she is made a self-exile instead. Full of fear of experiencing the isolation and discrimination that LGBTQIAP+ people know so well, Elsa hides away from everyone, even her sister.
Watching Elsa struggle to keep up her mask or normalcy is heart breaking. She wears gloves all the time, constantly afraid to touch other people. Her father’s words- her mantra is- “Conceal, Don’t Feel.” Hide who you are. Don’t follow your heart. Don’t feel your feelings. “Be the good girl you always have to be.” She is, rather obviously and metaphorically, in the closet about her true inner self.
But on the day when she comes of age- her Coronation day, when she is finally a young woman and no longer a girl- her secret is revealed.
Elsa’s “Let It Go” is an epic ballad. Transitioning from a lament, to self-acceptance, all the way to self-celebration, Elsa literally strips away her confinements (hair pieces, crowns, gloves, cloaks, sleeves) and transforms into a sparkling, confidant woman. She says “That perfect girl is gone / Here I stand in the light of day /Let the storm rage on /The cold never bothered me anyway” To deny that it sounds like a bit of a coming out ballad for those of us who have gone through the same struggle is putting it mildly.
To read Elsa as a queer heroine, to read her struggle as a queer struggle, and to see the ending where Anna proves that she loves her sister no matter what and she is able to go back home as she truly is, adds such a level of depth to an already lovely film.
Now, let me be clear: a queer reading for Elsa is easy and, for me, compelling. She may very well be the queer icon that many of us NEED right now- high profile, sparkling, with a karaoke worthy ballad.
But ultimately, Elsa isn’t the queer icon we DESERVE. Her queerness is simply an interpretation, a reading built on metaphor and subtext. She is not canonly queer. she does not give visibility and representation to the LGBTQIAP+ community.
What we DESERVE is a queer heroine who’s queerness is more than subtext. I’m talking Girl meets girl, big sweeping love ballads, true love’s first kiss, all of it. And someday, we WILL get it. Elsa just isn’t that.
What the hell?
Niggas out here trappin women
Then wonder how your ass got burned
what the fuck…
I’ve had a dude do that before. that shit is terrifying. Dude went across the room like he typically would to get one. Came back and I didn’t know that he didn’t have one until he pulled out.
I FLIPPED. Cried all the way home. Cried for days. Got tested. Bought the morning after pill. Seriously, fuck dudes that do this. There should be laws against it.
There ARE laws against this. It’s called rape by deception or fraudulent rape and basically, it’s anytime the conditions of your consent are compromised. In a situation like this, you consented to protected sex. By having sex in a way you did not consent to, a crime WAS committed and he could be charged if any physical effects like pregnancy or STD occurred. Remember, ANY SEXUAL ACTIVITY YOU DON’T CONSENT TO IS RAPE.
If a guy does this, it’s rape. Call the cops. Ruin his life since he has no problem risking yours. Make him fucking learn. Rapists belong in jail. Rape by deception is rape, not a funny “meme”.
This is incredibly important for everyone to see!! EVERYONE
yes YOU NEED THIS ON YOUR DASH EVERYONE
y’all should see this, just so you know.
Call the cops.
HERE is a list of crisis hotlines for rape and abuse. Most of them are 24/7 hotlines.
HERE is a list of crisis hotlines by state.
In addition to giving you the compassion your rapist clearly won’t, they might be able to advise you on possible next steps: what to tell the police, how to get a test done.
Stay safe, everyone.